“At the end of the day, it’s not what you are, but who you are that matters. Be genuine, get real, be authentic, be in the moment.” ~Linda Vettrus-Nichols
Evolution of a Healer – After leaving a ‘starter’ marriage of 33 years and finding the love of her life, Linda Vettrus-Nichols realized that the true ‘love of her life’ was herself. When Terry Earthwind Nichols first saw Linda he had no idea she was married or that she had just retained an attorney to process her divorce.
Ten months later he confessed how he felt when he had clamped his eyes on her…
Terry: “When I saw you I wanted to pick you up in my arms, tell you, ‘you’re mine and I’m marry you’. And I still feel that way!”
Linda: “You want to marry me? When do you want to marry me?”
He was delighted that she had said when.
Terry: “In a week-and-a-half two weeks, take your time.”
Linda: “You’re not kidding are you?”
Two-and-a-half weeks later they were hitched. No dating! Now that was weird and held more than many surprises, but they more than made it work. Here is a little something that Linda wrote four months later. Horrid? is one of Linda's musings after being told by a male friend that she was too loud and moved too fast...
Once upon a time, there was a little girl, who had a little curl right in the middle of her forehead. And when she was good she was very, very good, but when she was bad she was horrid.
What is horrid? What does horrid mean? According to Webster’s New World Dictionary, horrid means very bad, ugly, and unpleasant. If one man’s treasure is another man’s trash or if one man’s dream is another man’s nightmare then horrid is a perception.
What is perception? If perception is how we view the world, then people’s perception will vary. What is true for me may not be true for you. As a child, I may have been naughty, but I was never a bad person. I certainly wasn’t the ugliest kid on the block. As for unpleasant, I could definitely be disagreeable, “my way or the highway.” Frustrating may be a better word to describe me than horrid. Annoying could most likely go in there too.
For some I talk too fast and/or too much. I’ve even been told I move too fast. Does that make me horrid? Does that make me a bad person? Does that make me ugly or unpleasant? Susan Sark in her book, Succulent Woman—Dancing with Your Wonderful Self! entitled one of her chapters, Fear of Being 'too much'. All her life she had heard that she was 'too much'. Too wild, too loud, too outrageous, too emotional, too sensitive, too needy, etc . She and her boyfriend had both been called “larger than life.” When she asked him if he felt “larger than life,” he put his hands on her shoulder and said, “Susan, this is the size life is, anyone who tries to make you smaller is just a Lilliputian.” She knew then she had found the right man for her.
I too have found the right man. A man who never puts me down or feels I’m too much. A man who loves me just the way I am. A man who bends over backwards for me unconditionally. A man who shares my hopes and dreams for a better future. A man who feels deeply and walks boldly with great humility. This man’s name is Terry Earthwind Nichols and he truly is “The Chosen One.” ~Linda Vettrus-Nichols