What Kind of Man Are You Looking For?

Perhaps you have seen this before, floating around the internet...it definitely gets one thinking.

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing this question, "What kind of a man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, "Do you really want to know?"

Reluctantly he said, "Yes." She began to expound, "As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man: What can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills, I take care of my houshold without the help of any man or woman for that matter. I am in a postition to ask: What can you bring to the table?" The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life."

According to David Deida, author of the book

"The Way of the Superior Man--A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire",

a man who knows his mission

is the man this woman knows she is worthy of having in her life.

That way they will both have their shit together

and can stay fully present with themeselves and each other.

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms and asked her to explain. She said, "I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked. That is a recipe for disaster."

"I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded." 

"I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man." 

"I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest, and provider to the lives entrusted to him."

"I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive, he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him. He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me as his help-mate. I can't help a man if he can't help himself."

When she finished she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, "You are asking a lot." She replied, "I'm worth a lot." 

This is for every woman. You are worth a lot! 

This is also for every man who has the maturity to understand!